Easily one of the biggest mistakes I have seen women make over my lifetime of loving, living with, and watching women, is martyrdom. Mothers as martyrs. Wives as martyrs. Friends as martyrs. We have been conditioned as a society to believe that women should sacrifice everything in the name of helping others. Well, I’m here to tell you that after years of observation and firsthand experience as a mother, a daughter, a wife, and a friend, martyrdom is a myth that must die. The truth is, we, none of us, can serve from an empty vessel. In fact, the greatest gift you can give to another woman, no matter who she is, is to empower yourself. Lift yourself up. Find your own pedestal, put yourself on it, and share all your secrets of success with her.
Shining brightly whenever I possibly can has been one of my greatest “secrets” to success. It led me to Isagenix and empowerment over my health, and it has led me to an abundant and fruitful career as a coach for other amazing women. I have always been a natural leader and what many would call a strong woman, but it took me taking control of my own health and feeling good in my own body to actually step into the role of truly empowered female. I had to fill my own vessel.
What does it mean to fill your own vessel? I always think of the airplane analogy. The flight attendant stands at the front of the airplane showing you where the exits are, how to raise and lower your trays, where the emergency manuals are, and how to put on your mask if it drops down. She then looks closely at all the mothers and other people attending children on the plane and reminds us of a very important fact: you must put your own mask on first. You are no good to anyone, least of all your child, if you were freaking out about putting on their mask and suffocated first because you had no mask.
Same goes with the vessel. You are a body, mind, and spirit that requires filling. You are no good to anyone if your vessel is empty. Why? Because you can’t serve from an empty vessel. So be a little selfish. Get your sleep, eat healthy, exercise, find joy and purpose in your hobbies and your work. In short, fill your vessel and empower yourself.
Then, before you know it, not only will you be better equipped to help others, but you will be quite hungry to do so. Empowered women empower women. So start empowering yourself today.
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