I Can’t Do It For You: You Must Empower Yourself

So often, I come across people, both men and women, who think that helping others means “let me fix it for you.” Men are natural fixers. And women have been conditioned to be people pleasers. So we have a world filled with “helpers” who end up doing much more harm than good, and they can’t figure out why.

It makes me think of that adage: give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime. When we help others, yes, of course sometimes it is a simple fix, but most often we need to build on that fix. For example, when I see a client or a team member struggling with an issue, I cannot simply answer the question and leave it at that. I have to guide my student toward the answer, help them see how they got into the problem, and then help them find ways to prevent the problem from arising in the future.

Now, you say, that is a lot of work! Yes. It is. But it is much more work for the person I am helping than for me. How? Because that person has to pull from within herself the courage to explore problem areas and commit to future prevention, which is, in effect, empowering.

Are you ready to empower yourself? Or ready to help empower others? Reach out to me today, and let’s talk about what that looks like for you!