Powering Through Hard Times

“We can do hard things.” When I first read author Glennon Doyle’s words, I was struck by just how true they are. As a warm, direct, truth teller myself, I respond to this statement almost on a daily basis. Life is wonderful and joyful and abundant, but that does not mean that sometimes it isn’t just hard. And sometimes the things we have to do to get through life, the decisions we have to make, are hard. Indeed, sometimes just getting through the day feels like a hard thing to do. But as much as I am here to tell you that yes, life can be incredibly hard at times, I am also here to remind you of Doyle’s words, “we can do hard things,” and offer a bit of advice on just how.

First, take a breath. Almost every single time we are facing a difficult time or a difficult decision, we are not in imminent danger. We can take a breath, take a moment, and think things through a bit.

Second, trust your intuition. You have an inner voice that will never lead you astray. Remember that your inner voice always leads you toward something, never away from something. Your inner voice says “yes yes yes” to things. So listen for the yes, and remember, if it’s not a “yes yes yes” it’s a “no no no.”

Third, don’t take too long. While I want you to take a breath, I don’t want you to ruminate all day or all year. Your intuition is quick, but you have to take that breath, that moment, to listen to it. The trick is, if you take too long, you will start to talk yourself away from your inner voice. This is where most people hesitate and never get into action. Stop overthinking your voice.

Finally, you’ve got this! No matter what, you WILL get through what you are dealing with now. The power of hope is incredible. One of my favorite things to remember is that we can all get our happy endings, and if you’re not happy, it’s not the ending.

I’m always up for a chat if you need some encouragement!

When Being a Coach Starts to SUCK.

If I’m anything, I’m honest. I will always be up front and give you my one hundred percent truth. Truth the way I see it, based on my experience and training. I’ve been coaching, sercinf, and guiding people my whole life, since I was a young girl. People have gravitated naturally toward me for advice and for help, for uplift and for the truth. Many, many people come to me for the honest truth, and sometimes its hard to deliver cold honest truth. So, here’s a big truth that most people in my position don’t want to admit: sometimes being a coach sucks. Sometimes being the truth teller sucks. Sometimes trying to help everyone sucks.

Are you surprised? I would venture to say that you are only surprised if you’ve never been a coach, a teacher, a guide, a manager, a leader. I’m willing to be you have been, and you know exactly what I’m talking about. Sometimes, as a coach, our work can feel hopeless. You are leading someone to water, but they simply won’t drink. You’re trying and trying and giving your all, and the people you are helping refuse to hear you. They stick their fingers in their ears and sing “lalalalalala” as loud as they can.

This can be heartbreaking, especially because we coaches can see enormous potential in others. We see just what someone is capable and how far they can go… if they would just step into it! It is hard. It is so hard, in fact, that I had to step away from coaching everyone. I was getting far too emotionally invested and therefore emotionally drained. I was taking on everyone else’s struggles, and I found myself depleted, actually trying to drink the water for the people I was helping!

I quit.

It’s true. I quit trying to help everyone, and I started helping people who truly wanted my help. And since then, my life and my business have drastically improved. It is why I now identify as a coach’s coach. `I help people ready for the next step, the next level.

Now, why am I telling you all this? Because it may be your time. You may be ready to step up to the next level and either become a coach yourself and/or learn how to identify others who are really ready to accept help.

If this sounds like you, we deserve to connect. Serving people like you is what I yearn for.

Summer Is Over. But You Don’t Have to Be!

Physically, Summer is one of the best seasons, right? We’re all out moving our bodies, probably not overeating (it’s too hot!), and we want to look good in our bathing suits and feel good on the water. But then summer comes to an end, and all those delicious holidays start to loom. Tons of people lose momentum during the Fall because of the bowls of Halloween candy and all those yummy treats. The Thanksgiving turkey. The Christmas roast. The Valentine’s Day candy. Easter Ham! Now you’ve lost your momentum, and it’s not even October yet.

Well, I’m here to tell you it does not have to be that way. One of the great things about Isagenix, and about being an Isagenix coach, is that I’ve learned the difference between dieting and lifestyle. I can see the impact changing your entire life and relationships with food has on a person because I am one such person, and I have coached dozens of others.

The trick to maintaining your momentum is to simply keep going. Ate too much Halloween candy? Keep going. Candied yams and mashed potatoes with extra butter before pumpkin pie and lemon merengue? Keep going. You can have a day. You can overeat some candy once. You do not have to let that day become a week, month, year, life.

Isagenix supports healthy lifestyles, and, yes, even healthy lifestyles sometimes overindulge.

So, now is the time to change your entire mindset around seasonal exercise and eating. Keep moving your body, but switch it up to Fall fun. Keep eating healthy, but switch your diet up to Fall foods. Keep motivating your team, your family, and your community, but switch it up to a more relevant discussion around the season. You can learn, as I have, to flow with the seasons while maintaining your core principles around health and happiness.

As an Isagenix coach, it also inspires me to help inspire others. I’m constantly aware that my team, my family, and my friends and community are watching me. This is a key leadership quality, and it can become very oppressive and stressful if you don’t channel it to the positive. Knowing that eyes are on me is motivating for me because I want to be a strong, healthy example for my kids and my team. So I let it be fuel in my fire. And you can do this, too. Just imagine your best possible self, the you you always wanted to be, and then walk toward her. Step into her shoes, and be her.

Struggling to make this work for you? Call me! That’s quite literally what I’m here for.

Fall Is Here: Let’s Make It Great

Let’s be honest. Summer makes us lazy. Right? Oh sure, we’re active, we’re moving and shaking. Our weekends are booked with fun trips to the lake and weddings. But in terms of business, who are we kidding? No one is motivated to work hard at work when you’re working hard at playing! So give yourself a break if you’ve been slacking a bit in the professional career driving arena. Your kids are sun kissed, and your tan is looking pretty awesome too. That’s why it’s called Summer!

But… all good things, indeed, all things, must come to an end, and we don’t have to be sad about that. We can look back fondly at our photos of swimming pools and trickling creeks, maybe even a week on the beach, and we can buckle down and prepare for what’s to come. Fall!

Yes, one of my favorite seasons has always been Fall. There is so much to celebrate, whether it’s Halloween or Thanksgiving, and there’s so much to do! Fall historically has always been such a productive time for Americans. Our farmers are reaping their crops. Kids are back to school. And the rest of us are planning out what the next few months look like at home and at work.

And if, like me, your home is your work, you’ve probably got a lot of planning going on! Well, I am a champion planner, goal setter, and benchmark hitter. So if you’re looking for help coming out of a long lazy summer, and you’re hoping to get a jump on a productive Fall season, get in touch with me and let’s get you going. This is quite literally what I’m here for!

You Can Lead

As I said in my post earlier this month, I believe leaders are both born and made. As a lifelong leader myself, I have seen strong leaders come from all walks of life, from serious tragedies and from the happiest circumstances. The one truth I have found in all of the teams I have led and all of the leaders I have come across and helped develop is that the key ingredient to becoming a leader is a desire to lead. I mean, when you think about it, that’s pretty much where everything starts, right? You have to want it. Leadership is the same. If you want to be a leader, you’ve already got all it takes inside you.

The next critical ingredient is a great mentor. Now, not everyone has access to a great mentor right away. I have learned from some incredible leaders in my life, but there have also been times when I’ve had to dig deep all on my own. A great resource to turn to when you don’t have immediate access to a coach or teacher to guide you toward your own greatness is the internet. You can find so much information on becoming a strong leader on the web. You can also hit your library or bookstore for some great reading material on leadership.

But in the end, it all comes down to knowing yourself. Not all leaders lead in the same way, and the greatest leaders of all time knew both their strengths and their weaknesses. A great first step to becoming a leader, or to growing into an even better leader, is a lot of self-awareness. A mentor or coach can also help you see yourself in ways you haven’t already thought of, and he or she can help you pull out your greatness.

So, if you’re interested in growing as a leader, becoming a coach for others, or simply cultivating your abilities to lead, reach out today. I would love to help. It is, after all, what I do.

A Coach’s Coach

From my earliest days of coaching, leading, and guiding others, I knew my destiny was not just in helping others. My true path has always been in helping the helpers. In many ways, the greatest gift to me in finding Isagenix has been the opportunity to coach the coaches. The world is filled with leaders, strong, self-assured women certain they are meant to help others, but not quite sure where to start. Those are my people. When I found Isagenix, I found a home as a leader’s leader, a coach’s coach.

The great thing about fulfilling this destiny is that in finding other smart, busy savvy, inspired, and motivated women, I can not only help them step into their own roles as leaders, but I can also show them how to lead other leaders. It is a marvelous and very profitable journey that can grow exponentially. I believe that leaders are both born and made. Some people simply have a knack for leadership, but others are forged in the fires of adversity and struggle. The grit that comes with overcoming makes for excellent leaders. As a leader’s leader, it is my job to find those diamonds in the rough. And one of the skills I teach my team, filled with women who are also on the lookout for new team members, is to learn to cultivate those leadership qualities in their own team members. And the greatest part? Everyone wins!

Isagenix is a product that is easy to get behind, and leading other women to become leaders is an endlessly rewarding task. When I teach and mentor other women who are already hungry for success and growth, I don’t find myself with the urge to push and beg, cajole and pull along. I find myself connecting and conversing, sharing and co-creating. There is real magic in circles of strong women, and it is a magic I am so happy to be a part of.

When women get together, work together, and support and encourage each other, they really can accomplish anything. I am so proud of the work my team members have done on their own and as team leaders in their own right. The accomplishments they have achieved are precisely what let me know, every day, that I made the perfect decision at the perfect time in my life in choosing to be an Isagenix leader. And there is always room for more!

Have you been thinking of how to develop your own leadership qualities? Connect with me today, and let’s talk about what that looks like for you.

I Can’t Do It For You: You Must Empower Yourself

So often, I come across people, both men and women, who think that helping others means “let me fix it for you.” Men are natural fixers. And women have been conditioned to be people pleasers. So we have a world filled with “helpers” who end up doing much more harm than good, and they can’t figure out why.

It makes me think of that adage: give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime. When we help others, yes, of course sometimes it is a simple fix, but most often we need to build on that fix. For example, when I see a client or a team member struggling with an issue, I cannot simply answer the question and leave it at that. I have to guide my student toward the answer, help them see how they got into the problem, and then help them find ways to prevent the problem from arising in the future.

Now, you say, that is a lot of work! Yes. It is. But it is much more work for the person I am helping than for me. How? Because that person has to pull from within herself the courage to explore problem areas and commit to future prevention, which is, in effect, empowering.

Are you ready to empower yourself? Or ready to help empower others? Reach out to me today, and let’s talk about what that looks like for you!

Fill Your Vessel: Empowered Women Empower Women

Easily one of the biggest mistakes I have seen women make over my lifetime of loving, living with, and watching women, is martyrdom. Mothers as martyrs. Wives as martyrs. Friends as martyrs. We have been conditioned as a society to believe that women should sacrifice everything in the name of helping others. Well, I’m here to tell you that after years of observation and firsthand experience as a mother, a daughter, a wife, and a friend, martyrdom is a myth that must die. The truth is, we, none of us, can serve from an empty vessel. In fact, the greatest gift you can give to another woman, no matter who she is, is to empower yourself. Lift yourself up. Find your own pedestal, put yourself on it, and share all your secrets of success with her.

Shining brightly whenever I possibly can has been one of my greatest “secrets” to success. It led me to Isagenix and empowerment over my health, and it has led me to an abundant and fruitful career as a coach for other amazing women. I have always been a natural leader and what many would call a strong woman, but it took me taking control of my own health and feeling good in my own body to actually step into the role of truly empowered female. I had to fill my own vessel.

What does it mean to fill your own vessel? I always think of the airplane analogy. The flight attendant stands at the front of the airplane showing you where the exits are, how to raise and lower your trays, where the emergency manuals are, and how to put on your mask if it drops down. She then looks closely at all the mothers and other people attending children on the plane and reminds us of a very important fact: you must put your own mask on first. You are no good to anyone, least of all your child, if you were freaking out about putting on their mask and suffocated first because you had no mask.

Same goes with the vessel. You are a body, mind, and spirit that requires filling. You are no good to anyone if your vessel is empty. Why? Because you can’t serve from an empty vessel. So be a little selfish. Get your sleep, eat healthy, exercise, find joy and purpose in your hobbies and your work. In short, fill your vessel and empower yourself.

Then, before you know it, not only will you be better equipped to help others, but you will be quite hungry to do so. Empowered women empower women. So start empowering yourself today.

Need help getting started filling your own vessel? Drop me a message here or send me an email, and let’s get you on track!

Summer! Get Outside

In my previous post this month, I included on a list of ways to stay healthy “spend 3 hours outside.” Now, you may be thinking, “3 hours?! Who has 3 hours to spend outside?!” But instead of answering that question right away, I’ll counter your question with a question: how much time do you spend glued to your screen? Stressing over the news, combing the internet for updates on Covid 19 or the latest developments in the Black Lives Matter movement? How many hours do you spend numbing out in front of the television? Now, if you cut back, let’s say by half, could you find 3 hours out of 24 to spend outside?

Don’t get me wrong. It is critical to stay educated and informed on the global pandemic and the Black Lives Matter movement as well as other global and local news. We need to know how to effect real change and what our part is in that change. But at some point, all the voices start to sound the same, the information becomes overwhelming, and your system just shuts down anyway as you grow more stressed out and anxious. And who doesn’t need the occasional brain dump over a fun show or a crazy documentary (Tiger King, anyone?).

But in the end, I’m reminding you that summer is fast approaching, and you will, in the long run, feel inordinately better if you get outside. You will also find yourself more capable of connecting with others – your family members or friends – which is one powerful way to effect real change. It happens quite suddenly, and it feels quite magical after just one day of spending 3 hours outside.

And you can break it up. Take a morning walk. Get out into the yard or nearby open space to play. Water your plants before bed. Before you know it, you’ve spent a good chunk of time under the healing sun, breathing fresh air, and reminding yourself that the world is actually a beautiful place filled with good people.

Stay healthy my friends!

“Stay Healthy:” What We’re Not Saying

Unless you live under a rock (no judgment), you’ve likely seen the ads everywhere. They’re on the internet, on the television, even on billboards and street signs. “Stay Healthy.” They say. Then there is usually a list of ways to stay healthy, which includes things like wash your hands, cover your cough or sneeze, practice social distancing, stay home, don’t go out if you’re sick, and on and on. And, of course, many if not all of the suggestions on the list are good practices to put into place in the midst of a global pandemic. Of course we want to practice good hygiene and avoid places that may be filled with infected people, as well as minimizing our chance of spreading illness if we’re sick. But what about what we’re not saying?

In many ways, what we’re not saying is even more powerful than what we are saying. Furthermore, the fact that we’re not saying it has a profound impact on each of us individually as well as collectively. Also, let’s be clear: the list is not comprised of things to do to stay healthy. It is made up of things to do to avoid getting sick. There is a huge difference between the two, both physically and literally as well as energetically. The energy, the messaging if you will, around “avoid getting sick,” is “against” and “anti” energy. The laws of energy say that when we are resisting something, we are focused on it. The attention required to follow these lists is “anti” energy. Essentially, we’re being asked to walk around all day focused on “don’t get sick” “don’t get sick” “don’t get sick.”

What if we shifted that energy? We could still follow the list and actually do things that promote our health. What if the list we focused on outlined ways to legitimately promote our own health and well being? I would love to see ads and commercials, billboards and street signs that read something along these lines:

Get Healthy and Stay Healthy!

Eat your fruits and veggies
Drink lots of water
Take your vitamins
Get plenty of sleep
Practice meditation or another form of stress and anxiety reduction
Exercise outside (whenever possible) for (at least) one hour a day
Spend 3 hours (it doesn’t have to be all at once) a day outside
Stay connected and social with friends and family (in ways that make you feel safe)

See the difference? These bullet points are all tried and true, proven by ample evidence to help us lead well rounded, healthy lives that support strong immune systems. Covid 19 is not the last virus to hit the globe, and it’s not even the only virus in town. (Hello, influenza. I see you.) The best defense against the vast majority of illnesses, and especially a virus, is a strong immune system. And the wonderful thing is, unlike washing your hands constantly or worrying about whether your sneeze escaped your mask, the energy around exercise and a good night’s sleep is “pro” energy. It is in favor of something, not against it. So you’re actually focusing on what you want to become.

Stay healthy my friends!